Harvard University lecturer and clinical psychologist Dr. Holly Parker offers a step-by-step guide for coping with emotionally unavailable partners.
Living with an emotionally absent partner can be overwhelming. Constantly overcoming the silent distance can leave you with the sense that the give-and-take in your relationship has disappeared. But even a broken relationship can be reinvigorated.
In helping real-world couples achieve a fulfilling future, Harvard University lecturer and clinical psychologist Dr. Holly Parker has developed a program filled with practical exercises and powerful advice for individuals on both sides of an emotionally damaged relationship. In If We’re Together, Why Do I Feel So Alone?, Dr. Parker presents her revelatory insights on topics such as:
How to identify unavailable personality types, such as the Critic, the Sponge, the Iceberg, the Emotional Silencer, and the Defender
How to create healthy emotional connections and boost physical intimacy
How to eliminate habits that trigger self-sabotaging behavior
With patience, empathy, and willpower, Dr. Parker’s program can help you restore balance and peace of mind, and turn your damaged partnership back into a rewarding and joyful bond.
In a world with more than 7 billion people, 196 countries, 7,000 spoken languages, and close to 30 religions, the probability of one group or one person intentionally or unintentionally offending another group or another person is absolutely certain. Many people limit themselves in life based on their inability to get along with others, and too often we allow ourselves to be ruled by our emotions. When we’re emotionally reactive, we’re not our best selves, nor do we produce the smartest outcomes. Emotional reactions create winners and losers. And winning directly at the expense of another is actually losing in disguise, due to the resentment it inspires in the loser. Often, people get stuck in a pattern of reacting emotionally, long past the time when the combativeness that once served them no longer does; long past the time when the pattern has become destructive without them being aware of it. For everyone who wants to change that part of themselves—everyone who wants more peaceful interactions and more successful outcomes, but doesn’t know how to achieve that—Quiet the Rage is the answer.
Your husband cheated on you, and now you don't recognize yourself. You used to be so together, so trusting. Now you're falling apart and doing things you would have never even considered doing, such as:
Obsessively checking your husband's email and Facebook accounts
Going through his cell phone history while he is in the shower
Freaking out if he is 10 minutes late (or if you text him and he doesn't reply right away)
Questioning whether you are attractive
After a rare happy moment with your husband, getting really, really angry and raging at him out of nowhere
You're scared. Angry. Obsessive. Devastated.
One minute, you hope your marriage will make it. The next minute, you want to kill him. (And the other woman, too.)
Not more stuff . . . or success . . . or fame . . . but more intimacy, more connection, more mystery, more awe. When Mariah McKenzie finds her husband and best friend in bed together, she is launched on a forbidding and transcendent journey.
Reeling from a life turned upside down, Mariah and her husband, Jake, resolve to search together for a deeper connection--for more. They decide to participate in Margot Anand's Year-Long Love and Ecstasy (aka "Tantra") Training. As they delve into sacred sexuality together, they learn sex is a doorway not only to physical and emotional intimacy, but also to the divine mystery of life. Mariah glimpses a different reality, which includes wildly mystical moments replete with astounding visions and prophetic dreams. The awakening, however, also releases repressed memories of childhood trauma. As Jake helps her navigate these experiences, they open more fully to one another and rekindle their trust.
Mariah begins to see life from a deeper perspective. Mariah's inner journey becomes a kind of striptease, at first exposing fear, anxiety and victim identity, but ultimately revealing a woman, who revels in saying, "yes" to Life with its sacred as well as profane moments.
More is a love story, a healing story, a spiritual adventure.
There is no safety in silence, only the loss of "self." We hide our dirty little secrets because we fear the judgement of others. Alone, we ask "Can I bear myself? Can I stand the truth?" Until we shatter our secrets and share our stories in order to be released from shame, we cannot find the freedom, joy, and love that's waiting for us on the other side. Picking up the pieces after emotional and financial devastation, Ann Peck revisits the hidden stories that shaped her self-concept and self-doubt. Anxiety, rape, domestic violence, a husband's sex addiction, failed relationships, codependency, resentments, and sexual shame, they're all there in her unblinking search for empowerment and self-love.
Would you like to resolve conflict easily? Do you want to feel like lovers again?
If you want to create long lasting loving relationships, you need concrete tools to help you bond emotionally, intimately, and deeply with your partner. The techniques and skills in this book will help you turn conflict into intimacy. In the process, you will come to believe, as the authors do, that conflict is a gift in disguise, and love is the only thing worth fighting for!
Mari Frank, an attorney mediator, and Leonard Szymczak, a psychotherapist, combine their seventy years of professional experience to help couples fight for love. Mari uses collaborative mediation strategies to show couples how to transform hostile behavior and peacefully resolve conflict from the outside in. Leonard uses engaging therapeutic tools to alter thoughts and beliefs to help clients heal conflict from the inside out. Together they enlighten and entertain readers with stories, insights, strategies, and exercises to empower couples to successfully fight for love, heal wounds, reignite relationships, and embrace greater intimacy.
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It Never Ends: Mothering Middle-Aged Daughters explores the complex challenges and unexpected rewards of aging mothers in their relationships with their midlife daughters. Based on interviews with women between 65 and 85, it illuminates issues of closeness, distance, longing, and need that arise. Mothers speak openly about the ongoing effects of the past on the present, the cultural, familial, and interpersonal conflicts that remain, and the varied and often invisible ways they continue mothering.
As mothers enter the last decades of their lives, their roles with their daughters often shift and change in complicated ways. Now that they are no longer central in caring for them as they once were, many experience a recalibrating of authority, autonomy, and independence. Their courage is apparent as they reflect on the mistakes they’ve made, acknowledge their regrets, and search to come to terms with their relationships as they now are.
When I was a young adult experiencing the trials and tribulations of dating, my wise grandmother would always say when she didn't like the guy I was dating "If I Can't Be The Cake, Damn The Crumbs" and when it came down to her teaching me about the cycle of relationships, she would say "The First Month's Sugar, The Second Month's Pie, The Third Month Go To Hell, Damn You and Die!" In an effort of honoring the wisdom that was bestowed upon me by her, The Cake Chronicles 80/20 Healthy Relationship Challenge was developed. This guide chronicles the struggles women face in dating and establishing healthy, loving, long lasting relationships because Mrs. Debbie Cakes recognizes that women were never taught how to value themselves while at the same time, balancing the challenges of life and love. The Cake Chronicles Challenge uses the 80/20 Rule in a unique way that encourages women to define what they need to be happy or their 80% and what they are willing to compromise or their 20%, but you should never settle for less than your 80% because you will find yourself in a CRUMZY situation. Because like my wise grandmother would say, If You Can't Be The Cake, Don't Be The Crumz! A relationship is like a great cake, you have the right "ingredients". Cake Chronicles uses cake as a metaphor to help women define their different types of relationships; Cake Pops - When you're single, this is the time in your life to get in touch with who you are and what you need to be happy Cup Cake - You're ready to mingle. This is the time to evaluate your relationships with others. Cake - I'm married. This is the time when you and your husband should understand how to support one another. Crumzy Situation - Relationships where you are settling for less than what you need and deserve. But until you define your 80/20, it is difficult to see these relationships as "unhealthy". Icing - Things that look good, may taste good, but are just not good for you! Take the 80/20 Healthy Relationship Challenge to discover what you truly need to be happy and learn how to stop settling for less than you deserve.